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Shareable: “Our chief want in life is somebody who shall make us do what we can.”~ <\/strong>Ralph Waldo Emerson<\/strong><\/p>\n

Going deeper takes courage.<\/strong> The next time you start to feel your temperature rise in conversation, consider this reframe: the person standing before you is actually your teacher. That’s right. That person who is triggering you is doing it for you, not to you. That person is trying to teach us something about ourselves so we can grow beyond our past and beyond our unprocessed emotions.<\/p>\n

This type of reframe is one of the fundamental teachings under the Courageous Leadership Coaching and Consulting Platform. It’s high level. The clients I work with are already successful leaders. They’ve mastered a successful business. What they haven’t yet fully mastered is their own energy.<\/p>\n

And so, they know this requires uncovering blindspots and biases. They know it would be convenient to stay where there are, and yet they choose to learn how to master their own energy so they can lead themselves and then others in an authentic and empowering manner. That takes courage, but that’s what makes them extraordinary.<\/p>\n

This high level reframe and leadership skill empowers us to take personal responsibility for our experiences and the worlds we create; worlds where win win outcomes become the new normal and where the I in the WE is honored.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Shareable: “Our chief want in life is somebody who shall make us do what we can.”~ Ralph Waldo Emerson Going deeper takes courage. The next time you start to feel your temperature rise in conversation, consider this reframe: the person standing before you is actually your teacher. That’s right. That person who is triggering you is doing it for you, not to you. That person is trying to teach us something about ourselves so we can grow beyond our past and beyond our unprocessed emotions. This type of reframe is one of the fundamental teachings under the Courageous Leadership Coaching and Consulting Platform. It’s high level. The clients I work with are already successful leaders. They’ve mastered a successful business. What they haven’t yet fully mastered is their own energy. And so, they know this requires uncovering blindspots and biases. They know it would be convenient to stay where there are, and yet they choose to learn how to master their own energy so they can lead themselves and then others in an authentic and empowering manner. That takes courage, but that’s what makes them extraordinary. 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